Deep Dark Desires and How To Fulfill Them

'She sashays to the bar, her triple D's spilling out of her couture dress. I'm already drunk and ready for anything tonight. We've locked eyes on two other occasions, no words, but this time, it just felt right. She brushes up against my right arm sizing my face up. I can feel the heat radiate off her smooth bronze toned frame. She whispers a mixture of the most erotic words the English language has to offer sending my sex drive into overload. For some reason I knew my life would never be the same as I took that beautiful stranger home with me that night.'

What a fantasy huh, taking home a stranger for anonymous hot monkey sex. Fantasies are the glue of great sex. They spark the most creative sides of ourselves. Fantasies are the evolution of our individual sex lives, helping us to grow. They shape us and help us identify with who we are and what we like as well as dislike. Fantasies can cover a large range of ideas from the bizarre (for some) to simple. However they are all a matter of personal taste.

A sexual desire doesn't have to be as raw as the example above. A challenging position may be what's on your mind. Perhaps being with a high class call girl gets you off. Hey, maybe you want to be basted in butter and wrapped in foil. It takes all kinds. Whatever your kink acknowledge it and don't for one moment feel ashamed.

There are those that are just fine with letting a fantasy remain just a fantasy. Others (like myself) need to experience many different sensations, sites, smells and feelings to keep the interest going.

I Don't Need No Fantasy!

So at this point you may be asking yourself 'what do I need a fantasy for, my sex life is just fine'. Is it? Are there hidden desires your partner may have that are unfulfilled? You'll never know unless you ask, right? Fantasies are a perfect way to break away from the normal rhythm of routine sex. If you've lived out your fantasies already (lucky you) or are looking for a new one try some of these to get the *ahem..ball rolling.

• Check out some new porn you usually wouldn't watch.
• Rummage through some magazines and pay attention to what excites you in a particular ad.
• Take a look at that sex scene again in your favorite movie.
• Try reading erotic fiction to spark your imagination.
  

Telling Your Partner

If you've got fantasies, trust me when I say to you, you've got to let them out! Holding in a fantasy you want to experience is like holding in a fart, eventually its gonna come out. Even if you have no intention of bringing it to fruition its still a good idea to let your partner in on your dreams. You never know where it may take you. Leave yourself open for the possibilities. Ok so you're interested in spilling the beans on that crazy notion that's been floating in your head, here's what to do:

1. The best place to talk about the bedroom, is outside the bedroom. Spring it into your conversation over breakfast (that'll wake 'em up) or over lunch when you're alone and not in a rush.
   
2. Begin with a compliment or sexy kiss. Let you're partner know how much he/she turns you on.
   
3. Then be as open and as honest as you can about what you want to try. Asking for what you want should be in the same tone as asking to pass the butter. Be confident and leave your worries on the shelf. Know that you are entitled to express yourself regardless of if that dreams comes true or not. If your partner is not happy about your new found whimsy, ask if he/she can meet you half way. Any lover that is willing to please will consider your happiness. A compromise may just do the trick. Keep in mind that you two are working together for a common freaky cause. Ultimately everyone will get some enjoyment out if it. Hopefully an orgasm or four.

Happy Fucking!

(c) 2008 Ever M. Famous